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10 Self-Coaching Questions Every Parent of a Child Struggling With Substances Should Ask

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10 Self-Coaching Questions Every Parent of a Child Struggling With Substances Should Ask

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There are moments in this journey when your coach isn’t available, your therapist can’t be reached, and the community is quiet. It is just you and whatever is unfolding in your relationship with your child, and you need a way through. In this solo episode, Brenda Zane distills a year of thinking into ten self-coaching

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4 Things You’re Probably Googling When Your Child Struggles With Substances

Cathy, Cathy Cioth, natural consequences, PAWS, self-care, treatment, young adults / Brenda Zane

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4 Things You're Probably Googling When Your Child Struggles With Substances

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There is a specific kind of searching that happens at 2am when you are a parent in the thick of it, typing half-formed fears into a search bar because you cannot say them out loud to anyone in your life. In this episode of Hopestream, co-founders Brenda Zane and Cathy Cioth sit down to answer

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The Benefits of Acceptance (Not Accepting) When Your Child Struggles with Addiction & Mental Health

acceptance, boundaries, mindfulness, natural consequences, self care / Brenda Zane

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The Benefits of Acceptance (Not Accepting) When Your Child Struggles with Addiction & Mental Health

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When your child struggles with substance misuse or mental health challenges, one of the most confusing concepts parents face is the difference between acceptance and accepting. Understanding this distinction can transform how you relate to your child and preserve your own wellbeing. The Critical Distinction Acceptance is about acknowledging reality as it exists today. It’s

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A Subtle & Stealth Strategy That Creates Real Change if Your Child is Misusing Drugs & Alcohol

boundaries, intervention, natural consequences, solo / Brenda Zane

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A Subtle & Stealth Strategy That Creates Real Change if Your Child is Misusing Drugs & Alcohol

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When your child struggles with substance misuse, every parenting instinct screams at you to fix the problem, solve the crisis, and rescue them from harm. But what if the most powerful thing you could do is the exact opposite? What if stepping back, rather than stepping in, creates the conditions your child needs to finally

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A Mother & Son Walk Us Through Addiction, Recovery and Rebuilding Family Connection, With Cindy & Colin

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A Mother & Son Walk Us Through Addiction, Recovery and Rebuilding Family Connection, With Cindy & Colin

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When Cindy Yoder Brown’s son Colin started drinking at age 13 or 14, she had no idea the family was beginning a journey that would span years of pain, confusion, and eventually profound healing. As a retired licensed clinical social worker and coach who now works with families facing similar struggles, Cindy brings both professional

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A Tribute To Bill Guy, A Role Model For Parents Who Love A Child Struggling With Drugs and Alcohol

Leave a Comment / boundaries, CRAFT, grief, natural consequences, stigma / Brenda Zane

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A Tribute To Bill Guy, A Role Model For Parents Who Love A Child Struggling With Drugs and Alcohol

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Bill Guy was a parent coach with the Partnership to End Addiction and host of the Woods men’s community. His journey through his son Chris’s addiction and eventual loss to overdose made him a powerful advocate for a compassionate, relationship-focused approach to supporting children struggling with substances. Bill’s Background and Journey Bill came from a

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Back Pocket Parenting; Getting Un-Enmeshed From A Child Who Misuses Drugs and Alcohol, with Cathy Cioth

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When you’re parenting a child who misuses drugs or alcohol, the line between being supportive and being enmeshed can become dangerously blurred. Many parents find themselves caught in a pattern where their happiness is entirely tied to their child’s well-being, and they’re doing things for their child that the child could do themselves. What is

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Coaching Episode: How To Cope And Find Contentment With A Son Home From Treatment, Unmotivated, Anti-Everything, And Disconnected From The Family

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Coaching Episode: How To Cope And Find Contentment With A Son Home From Treatment, Unmotivated, Anti-Everything, And Disconnected From The Family

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When a child returns home from residential treatment, parents often hope for reconnection and progress. But what happens when your son comes home unmotivated, anti-everything, and emotionally disconnected from the family? This coaching episode explores one mother’s journey through exactly this challenge. The Journey: From Crisis to Treatment to Home Jane’s story began two years

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10 Self-Coaching Questions Every Parent of a Child Struggling With Substances Should Ask

4 Things You’re Probably Googling When Your Child Struggles With Substances

The Benefits of Acceptance (Not Accepting) When Your Child Struggles with Addiction & Mental Health

A Subtle & Stealth Strategy That Creates Real Change if Your Child is Misusing Drugs & Alcohol

A Mother & Son Walk Us Through Addiction, Recovery and Rebuilding Family Connection, With Cindy & Colin

A Tribute To Bill Guy, A Role Model For Parents Who Love A Child Struggling With Drugs and Alcohol

Back Pocket Parenting; Getting Un-Enmeshed From A Child Who Misuses Drugs and Alcohol, with Cathy Cioth

Coaching Episode: How To Cope And Find Contentment With A Son Home From Treatment, Unmotivated, Anti-Everything, And Disconnected From The Family

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